Today’s post is about some whining I have been hearing lately. Some of you reading may not like me too much after reading this, but that is ok. If you take this post personally, maybe you should. If you think this is directed only at you personally, it isn’t. This also applies to people that probably won’t read it, and the person creating this post. I don’t write any of this to be mean, but if you know me, you know that I don’t sugar coat anything. Not only that, but it is my blog after all. Please know that I care about each and every one of you reading this. I say all of the following out of love.
Okay, now that I have that out of the way…
I am going to talk about something that has gotten under my skin ever since I worked in the weight loss industry; whiners. In this post, I will define whiners as people who complain about something, but their actions suggest that they don’t really wish to change their circumstances. For example, when someone complains about not being healthy and then a few hours later they are mowwing down on a fast food corn burger- I mean- hamburger and some french fries, and then wash everything down with some carbonated corn syrup- or soda pop. Or that same person is justifying why they must eat at least 3 extra-large pieces of that nothing-but-sugar-and-flour-with-some-artificial-colorings cake for so-and-so holiday. I get tradition, but what I don’t get is how we let tradition turn into a catch all excuse as to why we need to make ourselves sick. Remember, I’m not saying that I haven’t been guilty of this myself, but I have been so aware of this habit that when I do fall into it, I am quick to recognize what is going on and search for help.
If I could just explain something simply, holidays should not revolve around food. Here is an example; let us say it’s your birthday, and you are really happy about getting together with a few friends and loved ones to celebrate. How would it make you feel if the first thing someone says to you when you meet up is, “What are we having to eat? What kind of cake are we having?” Does that say to you, “Hi there! Happy Birthday! What would you like to do to celebrate?” Or does that say to you, “I am only here for the food, thank goodness for holidays!” I’m sure we would all like to think that we care a lot about the real meaning of holidays, but let us be real, most of the time we care about the food. We care about all the little goodies and treats that are surrounding the holiday. I mean, look at what is advertised in TV commercials, internet, and in grocery stores. Every holiday has it’s plethora of color schemed themed junk that people buy for its ability to coordinate with said holiday. No wonder these junk food companies make bank, we fall for it! By the way, when I say “junk” food, I mean the processed food that isn’t really food; that I know I used to buy all the time because it was cheaper. Well, there’s a reason it’s cheaper, and I want better for my body.
It is so interesting to me that we will do so much research, and pay top dollar for a quality TV, laptop, pair of shoes, and/or a piece of clothing, but when it comes to what we put in our mouths, we just grab whatever is the least expensive off of the shelves. Hmmm, I am recalling a saying I heard somewhere about how we can see what our priorities are by how we spend our money…. So we sit around and complain about our health, and how we don’t like the way we feel, or how our bodies jiggle, and how the cost of healthcare keeps rising, but at the same time, we are complaining about all of this in our name brand shoes with our super terrific handbags driving our super fancy cars with the background of our super big LED flat screen TV playing the TV shows we pay another company to record for us so we can spend mindless hours in front of said TV eating super cheap junk. Is this making any sense at all? Am I the only one who can see a problem with this?
Oh and I can hear all the whiney excuses now… “But it’s tradition,” “But one won’t hurt me,” “But it’s too hard to eat healthfully,” “But my kids will only eat such and such,” (love that one) “But healthful food doesn’t taste good,” “healthy food is boring,” “I will just work it off at the gym,” “My husband won’t let me buy the healthful stuff,” “I would eat healthfully but I just can’t afford to,” “But it’s my birthday, “ “But I don’t want to offend anyone”. Okay STOP!!! Think about all of these excuses we are giving ourselves because we are so addicted to this junk that we don’t want to give it up. The scariest thing for me is thinking about how much of what I eat can affect my health, and how sometimes I would sacrifice my health for 30 seconds of flavor on my taste buds. Are we really okay with being slaves to this processed fake food? Well, if you are, that is certainly your choice. I am not going to sit here and tell anyone what to do, BUT, stop all of the whining about how your favorite jeans don’t fit. Stop complaining about how your energy is gone and you are sick all the time. Stop talking about how you wish you were in better shape and didn’t have bad skin. Stop with your “if onlys” and “I wishes”, at least around me, but I still think it’s a good idea to stop whining altogether.
So you’ve realized you have been focusing on the wrong things and are ready to stop whining about things you can change. Now what? Now you start to rebuild your health. Now you do some research and find out what your body really needs to function properly. Now you politely refuse the junk at the food centered parties because your health is more important to you than it was before. You find someone who is already healthy and ask them to be your mentor, and/or your accountability partner, and that they won’t put up with your whiny excuses but instead, gently remind you of your goals. Now you stop making those lame excuses as to why you just HAVE to have a bite of that brownie, because we all know it won’t just be a bite. Now you start looking at what you spend your money on and ask yourself what is really important to you. Now you pick yourself up off the floor and become the person you were busy whining about that you weren’t.
By the way, I have some good news; I am here to help you!! This is one of the main reasons I want to become a Nutritional Therapy Practitioner. Over the next year, as I read more of the books required for the course I am planning on taking to get my certification, I will be sharing some of the new things I have learned. My hope is that someone out there will gain some knowledge that will improve their overall health and well-being.
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