What Not to do When Your Friend Jenn is Expecting

Hello my loyal readers!!!  Thank you so much for sticking around these last couple months!!  I haven’t been missing, but in case your haven’t heard, my husband and I are expecting a baby.  🙂  As I’m slowly sliding out of the first trimester, and starting to get my appetite and energy back, I should finally be able to post at least somewhat more regularly.  I cannot make any promises, however I really miss writing so I am hopeful that my energy allows it.

With this new chapter beginning in our lives, I thought I would write about some things that really annoy me now that I’m pregnant.  Actually, they are things that annoy me anyway, but now that I am pregnant and people will want to ask questions and drop annoying clichés, I thought it would be fun for me to give people in my life a heads up.  So here we go…

First and foremost, I am not ‘preggers’ or ‘preggo’.  I don’t know who came up with these two words, but I do not like them.  I don’t think they are cute, and if you say those words to me, I will most definitely roll my eyes at you and let you know that I do not like to be called those words.

The second thing, which is just as annoying as the first, is when people ask me if I want a boy or a girl.  If you think about it, it really opens a can of worms later on.  If I said I wanted a girl, and then had a boy, I would then get the comments about how maybe someday I’ll get my girl or some other silly thing like that.  I would never want my child to feel unwanted, or hear about how I really wished they were the opposite sex.  I just think that’s mean.  So please don’t ask.  I am happy to be blessed with a baby. Period.

Third on the list of things not to do is to not touch my belly, unless you are given permission by me.  I don’t know why being pregnant automatically makes other people think they have permission to touch me in any way, but it does not.  Even if I know you.  It’s still my body, so please do not put your hands on it without an invitation.  I will not be held responsible for the actions that may follow.

Fourth on the list, really goes along with number 2, asking if I am excited.  I really don’t understand why people ask this question.  It’s a very exciting time, of course, how could it not be?  And if I were to answer ‘no’, what would my future child think of me if they found out that their mom wasn’t excited about having them?

Number five has to do with telling me your stories.  I will ask for advice or opinions when I want them.  Please do not go on and on about how this or that happened to you.  I’m not comparing my pregnancy to anyone else’s, and neither should you.  I might compare it to my first pregnancy, but that makes sense because it involved me and my body.

The next one has to do with knowledge.  I am normally a fairly open person; however there are some things I will keep private.  If this offends, or hurts you, please get over it quickly and move on.  This would include family and friends.  No one is entitled to any information about our pregnancy; anything anyone knows is a result of my husband and me agreeing to share that information.  That being said, I will be sharing some information about what’s going on, just not everything.

Now a note about buying gifts:  Understanding that it’s been 17 years since I’ve had a baby, I would love to have a baby shower!!  I understand that some people just like to buy things they like, or think we would need, but in my case, I encourage anyone who would like to give us a gift, please make sure we are either registered for it, or we have told you personally that it is something we would use.  I am grateful for all of the generosity we have been shown so far, and being a giver myself, I understand wanting to give all I can to someone.  Because I care so deeply for all of my friends and family, I do not want anyone to waste their money on something that I’m not going to use.  I am pretty darn picky about what items we would like for our little one.

That about sums up the big stuff.  I’m not writing any of this to be mean, so please don’t anyone who knows me go taking any of this personally, because that would be silly.

What about you?  Do you have any pet peeves when it comes to what people say or do when you’re pregnant?  Please share below or on my facebook page.

Thank you for reading!

Jenn

p.s. As I mentioned in my first blog post, negative comments will not be tolerated.  If any of you have any negative feedback, I, again, ask you to send me a private message.  Thank you!!