What? You’ve never heard of the “Fourth Trimester“? Well, it’s a relatively new term I suppose, so I’ll let that slide for now. Since you’re reading this post, I would like to give you a little insight on what it is, so you will be informed and understand.
The Fourth Trimester is basically the first 3 months after birth. I will not be getting too technical here, because I’m no expert, but I do think it is important to know some basics.
First, babies don’t magically get used to their new environment when they’re born. It just doesn’t happen folks. So your baby is going from a warm, dark place where she was automatically fed nutrients she needed and had minimal changes from day to day, to… I mean, look around you!
Next, babies are developing at an amazingly fast rate in the womb, and that only continues on the outside! Have you heard of the Wonder Weeks? I recently purchased their app, but they do have a book as well. Babies go through neurological developments, or “leaps” that can change their behavior from the norm. The first couple of leaps are the most significant, and also happen within the first few months of life. Pretty interesting stuff, if you ask me.
And lastly, the new mom. There are so many changes that go on when a mama is pregnant, and they continue to change after the baby is born! Body parts that were moved are trying to find their home again, hormones are changing from growing a baby to sustaining a baby with breast milk, and us moms are trying to adjust daily life that must now revolve around a new baby for a while. It. Is. Tough.
Lack of sleep, food, bathroom breaks, and understanding are all things that the majority of moms have to deal with. We’re exhausted, and trying to figure out how to adjust just as much, if not more, as our babies! Let us not forget us moms who have other family members as well. Sure, they will also do some adjusting, but let’s face it, the moms do the most. Even more, if baby blues or postpartum depression and/or anxiety arise, things can really get challenging!
So, what is one to do? If you know of a new mom, or live with one, offer as much support as possible! She will probably resist, because in this society it can be difficult to ask or help. I know for me, I have a hard time accepting help! But when I do, I never regret it. So if you meet some resistance, maybe be more specific with your offer. Even telling the new mom how you’re going to help would work wonders because I can almost guarantee that inside the mama is screaming for help!
If you are a mom, ask for help. Let me say that again; ASK FOR HELP! You need it, and people are willing to give it, so just let it happen! If you have the means, hire a postpartum doula. This is something I wish I would have known about when my toddler was born because once my mom left and husband deployed, I had very little support. Thank goodness for my oldest daughter, without her I don’t think I would have made it!
Another avenue to getting help is seeking out a therapist! Even if your not feeling super depressed, it is really helpful to talk with someone who’s job is to listen! I find that when I’m struggling with something, just talking about it with someone who is really listening can help me sort through it.
Okay, there you have it! Some Fourth Trimester stuff to think about!
What other things can you think about that might make it on the Fourth Trimester timeline?
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